Friday, July 11, 2008

struts and frets

i've come to think that drama is a choice. as in - you can choose to create it, maintain it, encourage it, or you can dispel it, be transparent and real and honest, and rise above & not allow it to continue. yell cut.

i think a lot of misunderstandings turn into major grudges because they are not either aired out completely at the start or risen above. you can't let them fester. it gives a negative issue too much power in your life. life is too short to worry about what someone might have meant when they wrote or said or did whatever it is. either tell them they hurt you and ask why, or take a step back, understand where they may be coming from, forgive them whatever their intent, and get past it asap.

i think a lot of us go through life like it's a 'three's company' episode full of misunderstandings and miscommunications, secrets and deceptions, pretending to be gay so the landlord lets you stay. and it's not really necessary.

in my experience some misunderstandings turn out to be funny when both sides realize where the communication broke down.

and tragic when they don't.

so do your best. and follow the golden rule, and if everyone does good will be done to you.


Anonymous said...

Just spent some time in RI, & boy are your thoughts relevant. Thanks! By the by, did you receive a pkg last week?

Omnibus said...

Skippy you are a wise and awesome person. I am glad you are my friend. I really think if people could overcome fear we would be sooo much better off. Fear to express ourselves, take risks, love. You are on to something, Be good, expressive, and honest. And nothing but positive things can happen because you break down the barriers and there is nothing to lie about or be ashamed of. Theoretically perfect but, practically impossible. That is when forgiveness is required.

kid D said...

i couldn't agree more. i just recently made a pact with myself to approach everyone and everything with love. if i approach the situation with love, i can't go wrong.


skippy haha said...

yay all of you! omnibus i think forgiveness is really the biggest thing.
as alanis morrisette sings in that thank you india song = 'how bout how good it feels to finally forgive you' even if you forgive someone for selfish reasons, to make yourself feel better, everybody's way better off.
and yes much easier said than done!

MOM thanks for sending that, i will start to use the mets ball in vintage vantage photos!

jason said...

"his hour upon the stage and then is heard no more..."

I still have that memorized. Mr. Faetz (sp?) would be proud.

I too couldn't agree more with what you wrote, life *is* too short to worry about that stuff. For the most part, I think I tend to let things slide off my back... I just wish some people very close to me had that ability as well. It would make for a much more harmonious existence.

skippy haha said...

right on jason, way to be a duck! i memorized this part of macbeth for mr. faetz too. good stuff.